Present, Curious, Useful

"And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers." (Acts 2:42)

How do you actually build a healthy community where you live? Not a program, not an outreach event with a bounce house. A community, on a street, among people who did not ask for one. It comes down to three things, and none of them are complicated, and all of them are slow.

You have to be present. Physically. Repeatedly. In the front yard instead of the back one, on the porch instead of behind the door. Presence is the entire cost of admission, and almost no one pays it, which is why almost no one knows their neighbors. You have to be curious, which means asking a question and then, the hard part, actually listening to the answer instead of loading the next thing you meant to say. And you have to be useful. Not impressive. Useful. Have a ladder. Have jumper cables. Watch a dog. Bring in a garbage can.

That is the whole strategy. Present, curious, useful. It will not feel like ministry, and that is exactly why it works, because your neighbors have their guard up against ministry and no guard at all against a man who simply keeps showing up and helping. You will not build a community from a stage or a launch or a campaign. You will build it from a driveway, over about four years, one unhurried conversation at a time. Begin the four years now.

Matthew S.E. Waggoner

Matthew is a pastor in the Church of the Nazarene and the vision pastor of Falcon Community Church in Falcon, Colorado. He writes essays and devotionals on being formed by grace into the likeness of Christ.

https://www.gracethatforms.org
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